When it comes to attracting men, first impressions are super important, but what are those qualities or traits that men are really noticing? and one of the things they find most attractive? In this article I am going to share with you fiv.. surprising traits that men find most attractive.
I’m to the things that men find most attractive in women. Have you ever wondered what men are really noticing or what they’re really attracted to? I mean I know it’s an ancient question that people have been asking for years, and thankfully evolutionary psychologists have been studying this question for decades and have come up with some time tested and scientifically sound answers, so here are the top five in order of importance.
1. Playfulness and sense of humor
There is no surprise that a sense of humor is high in the list of traits that everybody says they look for in a potential partner. Does that mean that men are attracted to funny women? well not exactly. What i find funny pun intended, is that men aren’t more attracted to funny women instead there more attracted to women who appreciate their sense of humor. In other words, men want women who are going to laugh at their jokes. I know it’s shocking, right? and what about playfulness? simply put you’ve got to be that person that he wants to be with the most. You’ve got to rock his world in a way that no one else can, and leave them wanting more, leave them craving more, and the only one who can satisfy that craving and that need is you. You must create that dynamic, that feeling that he can’t get anywhere else. Every time he thinks of you, he is going to be thinking about the fun things. He’s going to associate you with everything fun, and that’s super attractive.
Confidence in both men and women is very sexy. If you walk into a room like a model walking down the runway, heads up shoulders back, arms swinging loosely, and swiveling your hips, you’ll have every guy staring at you, but why? Well, that walk is just one of the ways that human women have developed to get and keep a man’s attention as we’ve devolved. While you’re walking that walk, with the color red, men are more attracted to women who are wearing the color red. Think about it, Valentines are red, hearts are red, red roses are romantic. It’s possible that the color red may trigger a competitive edge in man. So maybe men are more competitive about the women that are wearing red, and therefore desire them more.
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You have to have your own life. One of the most important things that men find attractive in women is independence. In other words, men are attracted to women who have a life, not to women who come off as needy and clingy, unless that’s they are controlling abusive man, then they might want a woman who’s needy and clingy and ready to be controlled. Here’s an example; I love pizza, but what would happen if i ate it 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for a few months. I might get kind of sick of it and certainly wouldn’t appreciate it the same way. The same holds true in a relationship. Of course, you love being with the person, but you can’t be with them all the time for obvious reasons. Remember, people have the need to be autonomous, but they also have a need to bond and be inter dependent. You need to have a good balance between the two. So, make sure you’re keeping up with the life you had prior to meeting him. Making key plans with your girlfriends, and keep your schedule busy. This goes a long way towards helping him to see you as a high value woman with an exciting life, and when you do that, he’s going to want to be a part of that and when he isn’t, he’s going to feel that too. If you have your own life, men will find that independence very sexy.
4. Consistency and loyalty
One of the most important aspects of a healthy and successful romantic relationship is having a strong foundation of honesty and loyalty. If a man is looking for a lifelong relationship, he wants a woman who he can himself grow old with, and that starts with consistency and loyalty.
Think back to a time when you felt really close and connected with your partner, or a time when you felt you could tell your partner your deepest secrets and it would be accepted. We all need that deep connection with someone, and those deep and wonderful feelings of intimacy flourishes in an atmosphere of safety. We open up when we feel safe, we take risks when we feel safe, so create a safe zone for him to be freely expressive, to be himself. That means being a person who’s very accepting and caring and compassionate. Once he is connected with you on an emotionally intimate level, he will certainly miss you when he feels disconnected.
5. Happiness and life satisfaction
There’s nothing more attractive and sexier than a person who is happy and living in the moment. A happy person is a sexy person. Many psychological studies have confirmed the relationship between happiness and attraction, and simply put one ‘s level of attractiveness is directly related to their expressions of joy and happiness.
Think about how you felt when you’re around a person who is genuinely happy. They give off a certain energy. An energy that can’t be faked. This energy is a result of real happiness and gives a person the look of being more live and in the moment. There’s nothing sexier than a person completely present in the moment, and people want nothing more than to be happy, so when they see someone who they believe has already achieved happiness, they are automatically attracted to him or her. A happy person exudes contentment and positivity, all of which the majority of people are more attracted to.
People seeing your genuine happiness, will come to many conclusions. They will feel like you’re open and easy to talk to, and probably quite optimistic, and therefore they will think that you are someone whose company would make them smile in turn because of the positivity radiance. So, you’re more likely to attract people to you if you are happy. It’s also quite a source of positivity for people around you. It makes you more enduring and interesting. Happy people love themselves for who they are. Genuinely happy people don’t feel the need to search for satisfaction within the others. They accept and embrace both their physical and emotional appearances, regardless of whether they receive the same approval from others.
Remember, attractiveness or sexiness is something much deeper than appearance. It’s more than bone structure and skin tone, or the curves of the body, or the sway of the hips. Attractiveness is a quality of a person that transcends in physical. It’s the magnetic chemistry that is given off by your attitude and your energy and your happiness.