Are you worried that the guy you’re dating is still seeing other women? are you worried that he might be keeping his options open or that he wants to date other women? well I’m going to share the signs that he’s playing with you but he still wants to date others too.
I’m to the signs that your man is keeping his options open or dating other women. In the early stages of new relationships, there’s a period of time where the relationship is kind of undefined. It’s a time between the first date and when you’re in a fully committed relationship. It’s a very vulnerable time, because you’re starting to get excited about a guy, but you’re not completely sure of how he’s feeling, because you haven’t had that, what are we talk. It’s not uncommon for couples to avoid having that talk for weeks and sometimes months and during this time people might assume that there’s an unspoken understanding in place, not to see other people, but be careful you should never assume, and you certainly don’t want to go all in with your heart only to find out that he’s not that serious, and he’s still playing the field of dating others. Pay attention, and if you’re seeing one or more of the following signs, you’re probably not the only woman in his life.
1. He has other plans often
He makes a point to see you, but it seems like he has tons of blackout dates, that just are good for him, because he says that he has plans, but without going into any details. Like he doesn’t say I’m having dinner plans with my parents on Friday, instead he describes his plans in more generic terms, he might say; I have dinner plans on Friday or simply busy this weekend, and if you were to inquire about what he’s doing, the most he will say is I have a ton of things to do this weekend.
2. He goes missing for hours at a time
He’s usually very responsive to you via texting throughout the day, but on some evenings, he’s not reacting until very late at night or even the next morning, then suddenly it’s back to constant messages without any explanation of course. The guy who is keeping his options open doesn’t want to lie to you about dating other women, he goes silent when he’s busy with someone else. He’s not going to be actively engaging in a text conversation when he’s with her. Instead he probably has his notifications turned off or has silenced or even powered off his phone. If the man you’re dating frequently disappears into thin air, it’s time you realize that he’s definitely keeping his options open.
3. He cancels on you pretty regularly
Let’s face it, things happen and a day cancellation is bound to occur at some point, but if the guy you’re dating is canceling your date over and over again, it could be an indication that he’s keeping his options open. Men who are dating others will frequently cancel on you if a better option comes around. He’ll comes up with an excuse to blow up your date, so he can spend time with the new person that you just met at the bar last night.
On the flip side, he will also try to spring plans on you last minute, often in the evening, asking you out for a drink or to a movie because his plans changed. If that was the only sign, it could mean that he’s excited to see you and is willing to jump at every opportunity, but if everything else about him seems a bit off, it’s not unreasonable to think another date canceled on him, especially if he doesn’t regularly make advance dates with you.
My advice, stop giving in and agree to see a man at the last minute if a relationship is what you’re looking for. Chances are, he’s keeping his options open, and do you really want to waste your time with someone who is still playing the field.
4. He safeguards or hide his cell phone
In a relationship being open and honest about everything is important, but when a guy has something to hide, one of the first things to begin to do, is keep his cellphone private. Pay attention to what he does with his phone when he’s with you. Does he have the ringer notifications off? is his phone face down on the counter when you’re hanging out? Does he always take his phone to the bathroom and seem to be gone for an unusually long time? These are all possible signs that he’s trying to keep his communications private and doesn’t want you to know about them.
Here’s another big one, he never shows you pictures or videos on his own phone. That’s because he’s worried about the text that might come through while you’re looking at the screen. It’s subtle but when you’re hiding something, you’re certainly worried that provoking text message might give you away. And if you’re having an emergency and you need to use this phone, he will definitely hesitate before handing it over.
5. He maintains several friendships with women that you’ve never met
This is a huge warning sign. Sharing your life with someone involved developing relationships with your partners friends and family. In other words, we want our partner to be light, and approved of by the friends and family that we love. So, if you’re sharing your life with someone, their friends should become your friends too, their friends should want to meet you and want to know you, but if your man is maintaining friendships or relationships with other women, and he avoids introducing you, you must question his motives and the appropriateness of their friendship, like what or who is he hiding from you and why?
6. He won’t include you on his social media
Is your guy constantly updating Instagram or Facebook and posting photos of friends including other women? do you feel like you’re the only one who doesn’t get any love on his social media accounts? in other words, is he trying to make it look like he’s still single? and more importantly, has he avoided adding you or connecting with you on Facebook or Instagram? I mean when you’re interested in someone, it’s natural to add them as a friend on social media, especially if you’re very active on social media. If he is dating you, and only you, he will have no problem adding you to his friends list almost immediately.
As a matter of fact, he will probably add you before you even ask to add him, but If he’s keeping his options open, he may try to keep his social media a big secret, and if you send him a friend request and he declines it, pay attention. He may tell you that his account is only for close friends and family, but in reality, you might be one of the many women that he’s dating or wants to date and he’s trying not to blow his cover.
7. He doesn’t want to put a label on things
For couples who have the opportunity to see one another and communicate frequently, it might take only a few weeks or months before you both know that you want to be in an exclusive relationship. On the other hand, it’s understandable to take some additional time to get to know one another before deciding to commit to a relationship. In that case, it’s just a matter of a little more time before having that talk; the what are we talk.
In the understanding that you will only be seeing each other, But if you’ve been dating and intimate for several months, and he says he doesn’t want to complicate things or he mentions that he doesn’t want a relationship or anything serious right now, then yeah, that’s a nice way of saying that he’s keeping his options open. Think about it, shouldn’t he be concerned that you might find someone else? doesn’t he want to take you out of the market? this is a big one, this is the closest you’ll get to concrete evidence that he wants to be open to dating others.
8. Your intuition tells you that something isn’t right
If deep down you feel like something isn’t right with this person, you’re probably correct and you’re noticing it for a reason. So, if you don’t listen to anything else, listen to this; intuition is your best friend. Don’t ignore your best friend’s advice, but I know, I’ve been there too. Hearing that little voice in my head telling me that something just isn’t right, but choosing to ignore it in favor of what i wanted, it’s denial. Our brains use self-justification and self-deception to manipulate our thoughts and behaviors to explain and defend and protect us from recognizing things that we don’t want to be true, and when we blind ourselves to our true motivations and feelings, we are unwillingly sabotaging our own efforts for happiness and satisfying relationships. Don’t let that happen to you.
When making difficult decisions about a relationship, fight the urge to ignore your intuition, listen to that inner voice, listen to that gut feeling, make the decision and then act on it. That’s practicing self-love and it can be challenging, especially in times when we’re feeling hurt and facing difficult decisions, but by doing what you know you should do, you are actually strengthening your love for yourself and your ability to recognize things that are undermining your well-being and happiness. Use your intuition and listen to that inner voice.
Just be careful not to immediately distrust a new partner on the basis of some past relationship. Doing so, is like being a prisoner to that old relationship and likely to sabotage the next one. Remember both trust and distrust result from time and experiences with a partner, both are earned and should not be assumed, and you certainly don’t want to accuse your partner without being absolutely sure.
If you are seeing one or two of these signs, it’s probably best to just keep them to yourself, and keep your eyes open, because if he’s seeing others, more signs will pop up, and you’ll know soon enough. Just keep your eyes open and be patient. This is super important and i can’t stress this enough. you could ruin a newer relationship if your fears are unjustified.